EMDR & IFS Therapy for The LGBTQ+ Community in new york city
Let’s reconnect with the part of you that never stopped hoping.
Lost in the loop?
People call you strong, resilient, even impressive; but inside, you’re constantly questioning if they really mean it. Praise feels hollow. Criticism cuts deep.
You second-guess yourself in almost every interaction, bracing for rejection or judgment. It’s exhausting. You’re stuck in survival mode, caught in a loop of anxiety, shame, and self-doubt.
And as a queer person living in a cisheteronormative world, the pressure to shrink or code-switch just to stay safe only adds to the weight.
You deserve to be held, not just hold it all together.
Let’s start where you are—and move toward who you’ve always been.
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Maybe you’ve spent years hoping they’d come around—wishing for warmth, understanding, or even just a real conversation. The grief of what never was can feel just as heavy as what was lost.
Together, we can honor that grief while helping you build a sense of family on your own terms. -
You show up, but something still doesn’t land. When you have to explain or defend parts of yourself in places that promise to be inclusive, it can chip away at your sense of belonging.
In our work, we create a space where you’re not just heard—you’re understood deeply and without question. -
You might be surrounded by people, but still feel like no one really sees you. That kind of disconnection can leave you feeling isolated, numb or stuck in autopilot.
Therapy can help you come home to yourself and rewire your capacity for authentic connection. -
You’re constantly shrinking and stretching, trying to fit into a version of yourself that feels acceptable. That internal tug-of-war is often exhausting and it’s not your fault.
We’ll slow things down, sort through the messages you’ve absorbed and let the real you take up space. -
Whether it’s family, culture or survival mode that shaped you; breaking out of that mold can feel terrifying. Yet underneath all that conditioning is someone real, someone ready to breathe.
Let’s untangle the pressure and reconnect you with the freedom of your own truth.
I’m nicole.
You hold the power to heal and transform.
My role is to help you unlock it.
You’re built for healing; deep, lasting and liberating.
I help you tap into your strengths and move through the pain, not just manage it.
Using accelerated trauma therapies like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and IFS (Internal Family Systems), we work together to calm your nervous system, heal wounds and reconnect with your true self.
My approach blends cutting-edge neuroscience with compassion, collaboration, and a little humor when it feels right.
How I can help
I specialize in therapy for lasting change.
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Some pain doesn’t respond to just talking, which is why we go deeper.
EMDR helps you process trauma on a deeper level by targeting the nervous system, not just the narrative. Whether you're carrying long-held memories or the weight of a recent event, this evidence-based approach can reduce emotional overwhelm and help you move forward with more ease and clarity.
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What feels like self-sabotage is often protection.
Internal Family Systems is a trauma-informed approach that helps you understand the roles your inner parts play and how they developed. This work supports healing through curiosity, compassion, and increased internal harmony. -
Unpack the pressure to shrink, shape-shift, or hide.
Living in a world that constantly questions or erases who you are can leave deep marks. Together, we’ll explore the layers of identity, connection, and safety, without judgment or agenda. This is your space to unlearn the shame, reconnect with your truth, and begin feeling at home in yourself. -
You deserve care that sees you fully.
Whether you're exploring your identity, navigating transition, or simply trying to survive in a world that often feels unsafe, this space is built for you. We'll focus on helping you feel grounded, affirmed, and empowered, without having to educate your therapist first. -
Explore how your past still lives in your present.
Whether it’s a single distressing event or a long history of pain, trauma shapes the way you move through the world. This work means learning how to recognize those patterns, build tools to manage triggers, strengthen your resilience and reclaim a sense of safety and self.
HERE IS HOW YOUR PROCESS UNFOLDS
Life is challenging enough right now.
Let me make this part as easy as possible.
Click this link to choose a day and time for a free, confidential consultation.